If you really want to help the world and imbue it with beauty, you have to process what you feel.
It can seem difficult to find healthy ways to release the emotional weight of what you’re feeling.
If you’re not careful the heartaches will turn into body aches, then the more powerless you will be, and the beauty you’re seeking to express will dull.
In fact, that is what started to happen to me.
So here’s how I’ve been working towards healthy emotional release to reclaim life-force, power and vitality. I share all this in hopes that it may be useful for you too.
Stirring the pot and checking out isn’t a strategy for coping
Immersed in news or scrolling through our social feeds absorbing, sharing, and writing about our upsets, doesn’t mean we’re actually moving through the emotions and feelings in a healthy way. We’ve just stirred the pot.
When it all starts to feel like too much to handle, do you get the urge to shut it off and stuff it down?
Whatever your version of checking out is — be it binge watching TV, scrolling through pretty pictures for hours, drinking more alcohol, or eating more sugar (I’ve done all of these), it’s a poor strategy for truly feeling better.[Read: 6 Tips to Kick Sugar Cravings to the Curb]
Disconnect feels good temporarily, but it doesn’t mean all those feelings have been neutralized. They’re still swirling around in a frenzy with nowhere to go, except to fester in your body.
Holding in your emotions is like holding in your pee
I think holding in emotion for too long, is like holding in your pee for too long also.
When you finally decide it’s time to go, the muscles are still so clenched it takes forever for anything to come out, and it can hurt when it does.
If you hold your pee in for long enough, it will toxify your body to the point where it actually kills you.
In the book You Can Heal Your Life, Louise Hay explains how stuck emotions can turn into physical ailments, and offers ways to release them. This is an excellent starting place for choosing new habits of coping.
Pain shows up in your face too
When we hold in upset, our face muscles tighten into clenched jaws, downward mouths and furrowed brows that actually make us appear to be meaner and less approachable — the opposite of who we probably want to be perceived as!
Does your body ache because your heart aches?
While I’ve believed in Louise Hay’s work for many years, this was the first time in my life I so specifically experienced dis-ease from negative emotions lodged in my body…and it scared me. [Read More…]