In pretty much every society of the world right now, looking young is the ideal standard for women. Marketer’s and cosmetics companies want to encourage you to buy more products so you are always trying to regain the bloom of youth.
Looking youthful is grand! But it can go way too far and cross over into a very dark place where it becomes an unrealistic, unattainable goal to stop getting older, which causes us to totally miss out on the stages of our lives that are actually important.
A few weeks ago I had a couple of great epiphanies in my garden deadheading massive amounts of daisies.
While the metaphors of life and gardening are endless, I chose to flip my camera on and do a live stream video on Facebook to discuss right then and there, the inspiration that struck. It was really powerful!
What Dead Daisies Taught Me About Life and Aging
You can watch and even comment on the video below, and if you keep scrolling there’s a really beautiful poem that’s totally worth reading and maybe even printing out to keep on your wall.
Here’s a quick outline of what I covered in the video following:
- My resistance to cutting off dead flowers surprised me – and I bet many of you feel similarly!
- Believing this “thing” is pointless and stops you from moving forward.
- How aging and letting go of the “old/dead stuff” actually gives you room to reveal your beauty in new ways.
- At the 11:15 mark on the video, I give you my secret for dealing with wrinkles as they appear.
- Your challenge for the week about taking on your wrinkles.
- Here’s a link to the guided meditation I referred to towards the end.
If you can’t see the video here, go directly to it with this link.
Poetry to the rescue!
About a week or so after publishing this video, I came across this poem a friend had sent me over a year ago. I was searching through an old message for something and I paused to read it. For some reason when she sent it, the poem didn’t strike a chord, but it was the perfect addition for this article!
My friend calls it a crude translation from its original German, but it’s still pretty amazing. If any of you are German speakers (I used to be – now very rusty), then see if you can find it in its native tongue too.
“Stufen” (Steps) – by Hermann Hesse
As every blossom wilts and every youth yields to age, so blooms every step of life.
So too blooms every wisdom and every virtue in its time and may not last forever.
The heart must be ready to part and begin anew at all of life’s calls.
So that it may, with courage and without grief, give itself anew.
In every beginning there lies a special magic, that protects us and helps us to live.
We should stride from room to room with cheer, tie us to none as to a home,
The spirit of the world does not want to fetter or restrict us, but to lift us step by step, expanding.
We barely settle down in a phase of life and already complacency and inertia threaten.
Only they who are ready to leave, be free and travel may escape from crippling habits.
Perhaps even the hour of death will send us fresh to new horizons,
Life’s call to us will never end…
Well then, my heart, fare well and be well!
So, what are your thoughts on these concepts? Do you agree? Do you have your own insight to add? Let me know in the comments below or on the video directly!
Feature photo by Kristen Arnett.